现在的父母以为自己教对孩子的11件事

在网络书籍中阅读以下的文章，觉得非常有意思。这就是现在父母亲的通病，以为是做对的，其实是反效果的教育法。这个也是本园一再跟家长们强调不要错用的教育法，现把它贴在部落里与大家分享。。。。。

现在的父母最爱做的11件蠢事
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1.孩子想要玩泥巴，我们说：太脏了，不许玩！
注解：剥夺了孩子玩的权利，掐灭了孩子玩的天性，阻断了孩子对事物的认知,缩小了孩子的探索空间。

2.孩子想自己吃饭，我们说：搞得到处是；饭都冷了……妈妈喂！
注解：孩子的自主意识、孩子的动手能力就这样被扼杀。

3.孩子有些不舒服，我们说：宝贝，我们上医院，打点针就好了！大夫，用点好药！
注解：我们的盲目和无知直接导致孩子成为一个缺乏抵抗力的玻璃人,让他遭受更多病痛折磨和医疗创伤,让世界多了多少耐药菌和不治之症。

4.孩子想要自己洗碗，我们说：别把衣服弄脏了；水这么冰；别把碗打碎了……
注解：孩子眼里原本就像游戏的劳动,因为你,愉快的劳动变成了苦差,四肢肌肉萎缩,毫无阳刚之气。

5.孩子上学了,我们说：你要好好学习,听老师的话,不懂不要乱讲……
注解：孩子不敢问为什么,怕老师说，怕同学笑话；孩子只知道接受、从众，没有创造力,甚至没有自己的见解和思想。

6.孩子说，爸妈，我长大了，也要做点力所能及的事，我们说：好孩子,你读好了书就行，什么都不要你做。
注解：一个培养孩子责任感的机会，做一个顶天立地的男(女)子汉的机会就这样被你熄灭在萌芽状态,成长为一个畏缩的人,一个不负责任的人。

7.孩子学习不好，我们说：你知道爸爸妈妈为了你，吃了多少苦？你吃好的,穿好的，什么也不要做，为什么连书都读不好，你真是丢尽了我们的脸! 早知道……
注解：在孩子心里，他们看不到爱，他们认为你所付出的一切原来只是一场交易,自己只是父母的私有财产,是父母光宗耀祖的工具罢了。

8.孩子不知通过什么途径想到感恩，他对你们说：爸妈我爱你们，你们辛苦了！我们说：爱什么爱,你拿什么来爱？读好书,听话就是最好的爱。
注解：爱原来就是这样的功利、现实和残酷！爱的种子没有开花就已凋谢；爱的能力还没形成就被打击！

9.孩子学习很好，脾气也很坏，懒得出奇，我们说：没事，大了就好了，只要学习好，什么都无所谓。
注解：我们忘记了，一个人先要成人才能成人的道理，我们舍本逐末，把孩子健全的人格的培养任意地践踏。

10. 孩子真的是终于是长大了，他个子比你大，可是什么也不会干，什么也不想干，他吃你没商量！这时我们黔驴技穷了，我们说：等他成了家，有了老婆孩子就好了,可是你至于发现麻烦越来越大，越来越多！
注解：欲诉无人能说，悔，肠子都悔青了！或者干脆做个“祥林嫂”。

11.或者他文凭比你高、钱赚得比你多，可是孩子跟你没话说，甚至不着家，我们说：这是代沟，孩子跟我们没有共同语言。
注解：可是，你难道没有反省过，这是多么的悲哀：我们辛苦养大的孩子对我们只有义务，却缺少温情！我们原本可以和孩子一同成长，我们原本可以和孩子做朋友，让孩子快乐,让自己幸福的。

Learning and Leisure Trip photos

Mmm..... this is my products, very delicious

The Person incharge is teaching ours little angels

This is rice tub, said by cook

The cook is showing how to pour the rice into the tub

Yeh....... We have learnt how to make sushi

School Learning and Leisure Trip 2009

六月一号是本园和小天使们一起去户外学习一日游，目的地是金寿司，德安风沙丸厂和飞禽公园。在一个月前当本园发参加学习团的邀请信是，反应良好，个个家长们都在限定日子里交上表格。因为家长们都知道本园办理学习团的素质。

早上小瓜们都准时到达学校，家长们的放心让本园感到很欣慰，为什么要这样讲呢？以前，家长们都会挤在本园里，一直徘徊到巴士驶走了之后才放心的回家。但，今年呢？只有三个家长在校外徘徊及等到巴士出发后还在那里呢！因为旅程排的蛮密的，为了节省时间，本园让小瓜们先吃早餐，方才出发。个个小瓜们都非常期待此户外学习一日游，有的小瓜一上巴士就笑得合不笼嘴。一直嚷着说白老师的车很大辆，比他爸爸的更大辆，诸不知他爸爸的车是比普通的车更大辆呢！通常小瓜们只会比形状大罢了^v^

每一年的户外活动，一定会有一位家长在巴士后面追巴士。通常就是睡迟了的原因。今年也不例外，一位家长就在半路让孩子上巴士。一路上，小瓜们就如巴杀卖菜般，唧唧喳喳的不停，老师们叫他们不要讲多多话，好好休息，不讲还好，讲了之后更严本加历的闹个不停。所以聊天论事不只是我们大人的专利，小天使们也是八卦一族喔！当巴士准时抵达第一个目的地时，小瓜们个个都非常兴奋。金寿司的员工一早就在他们的店外就位，恭迎小天使们的到来。当每个小瓜们一进大门时，尽责的员工就会用日语像小瓜们道欢迎。而个个小瓜们用很好奇的眼光看着他们，但还不至于忘了道早安。在安排好每个小瓜们的位置之后，店长便对我说，有史以来，本园是他们接的最大一团，而且还叫老师们放心，今天就由他们当老师，还把本园老师们隔离小天使们。我还再三的向她确定，是否真的不要本园老师们的帮忙？店长说她们能操纵。本人看店长们那么有信心，就让她们试一试吧！在一轮的教学（教的是，做寿司用具和料理日本语的名称后就来个测验）店长为了能理解小天使们是否懂得和吸收她们所教的，就使出绝招，用奖励的方式测验小瓜们得理解能力。反而却让本人很替店长担心，担心她们的礼物不够本园小天使们分。事实摆在眼前，每当店长投出一个问题，便有几十个小天使们抢答，场面顿时失控，店长和店员一时不知所措，老师们也开始紧张起来。但，店员还是说他们能控制小瓜们。但是场面越来越失控和电影们满头大汗。在本人的眼里，觉得应该让本园老师们出马了。就劝告店长让本园老师们帮忙按怃小天使们。当小天使们看见老师们个个都配他们坐在一起时，开始产生不一样的表现。一个一个很有次序的作答。接着就是叫小天使们制作寿司，在做寿司之前，小天使们需要把手洗地干干净净方能开始制作。小瓜就是小瓜一边在包寿司一边在偷吃呢！看在我的眼里，笑在我的心里。。。。。 在一轮热闹之后，时间也差不多了。因为在此待了三个小时半呢！在让小瓜们上厕所之后就像金寿司的员工们道别，向德安风沙丸厂方向驶去。

抵达德安风沙丸厂后，就由负责人带领小天使们参观工厂如何包装风沙丸。这里操作非常简单，大都由机器来替代人工。只有比较复杂化的才用人工包装。在来张大合照之后，整队人浩浩荡荡往飞禽公园出发。抵达飞禽公园，就在等本人买票之际，小瓜们又嚷着肚子饿了，本人比较不建议小天使们在飞禽公园里用餐，因为环境的问题而且又担心清洁方面。就让小瓜们在巴士上解决。等待小天使们用完餐后，才陆陆续续排好队进公园，还好赶上了飞禽动物表演时刻，小天使们个个都看得目瞪口呆，当工作人员把老鹰，多种鸟类让小瓜们拍照时，比较胆小的一步都不敢靠进，更别说拍照了。而那比较大胆的，就一直嚷着要跟它们拍照，顿时整个表演台下全都是本园的学生。外人一概都不能靠近。唯有向他们道歉了呐！在工作人员带领我们介绍公园里的鸟类，里头不止是有鸟类，连蛇，变色龙，鳄鱼啦等等！当小瓜们看到蛇时，有的跑的无影无踪。有的却大惊小怪的乱叫一场。当来到最后的一的地点时，个个小瓜们都已经累坏了。在回家的路程中，个个小瓜们便到头大睡，其实不止小瓜们累，老师们个个也累坏了。包刮白老师在内（更别说了，白老师已经是上了年纪咯！）抵达校门外，其实已经很多家长们在等待了。。。。。

每一年的户外活动就有不同的感想，今年家长们的成熟，学生们领悟力比往年的强，大家的体力也比较强了。而为了让户外学习较有声有色，白老师每次都在伤脑筋寻找地点。希望每一年会更好。白老师的体力会继续坚持下去。哈哈哈哈 ( still a bundle of photos going to update )

Happy Parents' Day

Dear Readers,

Here i would like to wishing you all, Happy parents' day! attached are the meaningful video clip, please just spend 5 minutes to watch it. thanks with sincerity

Love from Bai Lao Shi

Feedback from parents regarding decisions was make by school on HFM diseases

Here to thanks all the following parents are given positive feedback to our school regarding decisions was makes by us when HFM diseases virus found.
First for all, I would like to share with all the readers here, according health dept, when school found 5 children are infected with HFM virus, school are encourage to shut down for cut off. Health Dept will not considering school syllabuses are delaying. Is not consider fairing to day care services or study group. Shut down is the best solution to cut off the virus spreading. Certain parents are quarry on fairness of day care services. Please think once your little angel is infected by this virus, your house might have some of the little angels will get higher risk to become the next victims. From our side, we also don’t want shut down purposely. Standing at business angles, school are not encourages shutting down. But on the other angles, thinks of little angels’ healthiness. We have to shut down; otherwise the virus will keep on spreading. I do invoke all ours QQ parents, don’t think about negative way while school shut down, try to thinks about your little angels healthiness way. I don’t think as a parent your expenses are more important than your little angel healthiness. Right?

1) 您在什么时候接收到本人发出第一宗HFM 的信息，告诉家长们需要提防和不要送孩子来校如果有发现孩子有此症状？When you are receiving first email regarding school found HFM diseases and advised don’t let your kid come to school if you have found above diseases?
Parent 1 - Wednesday, 6 May, 2009 22:32
Parent 2 - I had received your message around the 3rd week of May,09 . About the FHM virus and caution items that need to take care of our child
Parent 3 - I received the email from Teacher Peh mentioned that school recently has HFM and parents need to take precaution about children's care. Then I received the call from Teacher Goh on 23/May’09. She told me that school has to close in advance for a week due to HFM and school would open 1 week earlier
Parent 4 - 6th of May 2009
Parent 5 - Yes, you do contact us 2 times the first mail I forgot the date and second mail on 5-May-09
Parent 6 - The 1st email I received from you was on May 6th where you mentioned that one of student has been infected with HFM disease

2) 本园有没有对家长们掩盖本园被HFM攻陷的真相？Does school management hiding any news when school are found HFM virus has been spreading?
Parent 1 - 没有
Parent 2 - No. QQ kindergarten has not cover up the HFM virus. Whereas, immediate action being taken out to make earlier announcement, to declare about the case has been happened/attacked to their few students.
Parent 3 - We don’t know the seriousness of HFM in QQ after 6/May'09, but we only know the school needs to close due to this reason on 23/May’09 after received the call from Teacher Goh. (Anyway, we don't know how many degrees the seriousness is )
Parent 4 - No. As information was send since 1st case detected
Parent 5 - We do not know either you hidden or not because we did not have any monitoring at QQ. "Just may be" - you did not know the case was happen, i believe you did not hide it from us. But now you got very good experience with know how to detect this problem in future.
Parent 6 - The 1st email I received from you was on May 6th where you mentioned that one of student has been infected with HFM disease

3) 您有什么看法，对以本园因为发现HFM传染采取提早关校的决策？ 为什么？What is your opinions on school shut down immediately when found HFM Virus spreading? Why?
Parent 1 - 有勇气。因为不是每个人（院长）都能做到这一点，就是把事情曝光。
Parent 2 - Right action has been taken by QQ as below:-
i. Reporting to Pejabat kesihatan – To ensure the correct step and cleaning procedure need to be done.
ii. Proper messaging / info – To declare the HFM virus and prevention /cautions message were provided to parents.
iii. Earlier Shut down ( as school holiday ) – This is the better choice and students will resume back to class after 2 weeks school holiday ( Parents and QQ are in Win-Win condition )
Parent 3 - The right thing to do. Otherwise, the HFM will spread.
Parent 4 - It is a very good approach and action taken as this will prevent the spreading of the disease and eliminate others kid from suffering. Prevention is better than cure.
Parent 5 - Good. closed is better & faster way to stop the disease
Parent 6 - After we Darren was also infected on May 10th, he was admitted to Metro for 4 days. After he recovered, I've quarantined him at home for 1 week (from May 17th to 24th). He then went back to school on May 25th, but I again quarantined him from school on May 26th 3pm after received information from school that a 3 year old student again been infected. Few days after I received a call from Teacher Wing that school will be shut down for 1 week before school holiday

4) 您是不是同意，在发现有手足口症状后，照常上课，只是把感染者隔离在家？这样对其他的小天使们是否公平？Are you agree on school propose stimulate the infected children at home and school still carry on schooling? It is fair to all little angels?
Parent 1 - 情况受到控制之下，我能接受只须要把感染者隔离在家，照常上课。没有所谓的公不公平，若家长不放心，大可不送孩子去学校上课。
Parent 2 - Definitely not agree to those kids who has attacked by HFM virus and still coming to class. We love our children, surely we don’t let them suffering from any illness, etc….
Parent 3 - If for others kid without HFM, I agreed. But if I'm the parent of the kid with HFM, I don't agreed cause children might left behind the classes.... I think it is fair enough to close down the school. But it might be problem for those parents who are working and send their kids for day care... cause don't know how to arrange thier kids....
Parent 4 - It will not be effective to prevent the disease from spreading as from the e-mail sent by teacher Peh, it is already proven that some of the kid will still return to school although they are sick. Special action shall be taken especially for this type of critical disease.
Parent 5 - Good. Closed is better & faster way to stop the disease

5) 哪一个措施您认为是最好的解决方案？ 关闭学校停止让手足口症状传播或照常上课，只是把感染者隔离在家？Which solutions are you feel better? Shut down schooling to avoid virus spreading or just quarantine infected children at home and school still run as normal.
Parent 1 - 如果没有把握受到控制，关闭也是逼不得已的方法。
Parent 2 - To those suspect or confirm being attacked by HFM virus , high fever, etc… Pls isolate them in the house until recover. It is a good
Solution to everybody for now and future.
Before back to school – need confirmation letter from Doctor indicated that he/her is suitable to go back to continue of study.
Parent 3 - All of the solution got pro and con. Depent on which party we are. Shut down the school for this time is the good solution. But as I said earlier, this will become a problem to those working parents, with such short notice....
Parent 4 - Declare school off for certain period so that the disease spreading cans completely cut-off.
Parent 5 - Due to increasing & transporting, should stop the class. About Fairness cannot consider already because this disease consider danger for kids and with order by "Kementerian" to close the school to stop the problem. And further by cleaning are required. Should stop the class.

6) 因为本园为了预防手足口症传染而停课，您可以接受吗？Do you agree school shut down stop to spreading HFM virus?
Parent 1 - 可以。
Parent 2 - For my case, I will take this a serious matter. Shut down is one of the proper choice ( but no other choice right). I do agree of school shut down for one of the prevention step to avoid virus spreading among the study even to their family members. Lastly, I sincerely hope that may my opinion is in Win-Win situation between Parents and QQ kindergarten.
Parent 3 - As a half day-parents of QQ kids, I can accept school close 1 week in advance and open 1 week earlier. Continue the school will cause more risks for the kids in the school. It is because no one knows who will be infected next. If only quarantine the infected kids, as mention ealier, the kids might hard to catch-up....
Parent 4 - Yes.
Parent 5 - Yes.
Parent 6 - Personally I agreed with the decision to shut down due to HFM disease is still spreading actively at school. In order not to worsen the condition and totally free from it, a thorough sterilization & cleaning is needed. Although it created a short-term inconvenience to the parents, but for the benefit of our children; we have to.