Happy Parents' Day

Dear Readers,

Here i would like to wishing you all, Happy parents' day! attached are the meaningful video clip, please just spend 5 minutes to watch it. thanks with sincerity

Love from Bai Lao Shi

Feedback from parents regarding decisions was make by school on HFM diseases

Here to thanks all the following parents are given positive feedback to our school regarding decisions was makes by us when HFM diseases virus found.
First for all, I would like to share with all the readers here, according health dept, when school found 5 children are infected with HFM virus, school are encourage to shut down for cut off. Health Dept will not considering school syllabuses are delaying. Is not consider fairing to day care services or study group. Shut down is the best solution to cut off the virus spreading. Certain parents are quarry on fairness of day care services. Please think once your little angel is infected by this virus, your house might have some of the little angels will get higher risk to become the next victims. From our side, we also don’t want shut down purposely. Standing at business angles, school are not encourages shutting down. But on the other angles, thinks of little angels’ healthiness. We have to shut down; otherwise the virus will keep on spreading. I do invoke all ours QQ parents, don’t think about negative way while school shut down, try to thinks about your little angels healthiness way. I don’t think as a parent your expenses are more important than your little angel healthiness. Right?

1) 您在什么时候接收到本人发出第一宗HFM 的信息，告诉家长们需要提防和不要送孩子来校如果有发现孩子有此症状？When you are receiving first email regarding school found HFM diseases and advised don’t let your kid come to school if you have found above diseases?
Parent 1 - Wednesday, 6 May, 2009 22:32
Parent 2 - I had received your message around the 3rd week of May,09 . About the FHM virus and caution items that need to take care of our child
Parent 3 - I received the email from Teacher Peh mentioned that school recently has HFM and parents need to take precaution about children's care. Then I received the call from Teacher Goh on 23/May’09. She told me that school has to close in advance for a week due to HFM and school would open 1 week earlier
Parent 4 - 6th of May 2009
Parent 5 - Yes, you do contact us 2 times the first mail I forgot the date and second mail on 5-May-09
Parent 6 - The 1st email I received from you was on May 6th where you mentioned that one of student has been infected with HFM disease

2) 本园有没有对家长们掩盖本园被HFM攻陷的真相？Does school management hiding any news when school are found HFM virus has been spreading?
Parent 1 - 没有
Parent 2 - No. QQ kindergarten has not cover up the HFM virus. Whereas, immediate action being taken out to make earlier announcement, to declare about the case has been happened/attacked to their few students.
Parent 3 - We don’t know the seriousness of HFM in QQ after 6/May'09, but we only know the school needs to close due to this reason on 23/May’09 after received the call from Teacher Goh. (Anyway, we don't know how many degrees the seriousness is )
Parent 4 - No. As information was send since 1st case detected
Parent 5 - We do not know either you hidden or not because we did not have any monitoring at QQ. "Just may be" - you did not know the case was happen, i believe you did not hide it from us. But now you got very good experience with know how to detect this problem in future.
Parent 6 - The 1st email I received from you was on May 6th where you mentioned that one of student has been infected with HFM disease

3) 您有什么看法，对以本园因为发现HFM传染采取提早关校的决策？ 为什么？What is your opinions on school shut down immediately when found HFM Virus spreading? Why?
Parent 1 - 有勇气。因为不是每个人（院长）都能做到这一点，就是把事情曝光。
Parent 2 - Right action has been taken by QQ as below:-
i. Reporting to Pejabat kesihatan – To ensure the correct step and cleaning procedure need to be done.
ii. Proper messaging / info – To declare the HFM virus and prevention /cautions message were provided to parents.
iii. Earlier Shut down ( as school holiday ) – This is the better choice and students will resume back to class after 2 weeks school holiday ( Parents and QQ are in Win-Win condition )
Parent 3 - The right thing to do. Otherwise, the HFM will spread.
Parent 4 - It is a very good approach and action taken as this will prevent the spreading of the disease and eliminate others kid from suffering. Prevention is better than cure.
Parent 5 - Good. closed is better & faster way to stop the disease
Parent 6 - After we Darren was also infected on May 10th, he was admitted to Metro for 4 days. After he recovered, I've quarantined him at home for 1 week (from May 17th to 24th). He then went back to school on May 25th, but I again quarantined him from school on May 26th 3pm after received information from school that a 3 year old student again been infected. Few days after I received a call from Teacher Wing that school will be shut down for 1 week before school holiday

4) 您是不是同意，在发现有手足口症状后，照常上课，只是把感染者隔离在家？这样对其他的小天使们是否公平？Are you agree on school propose stimulate the infected children at home and school still carry on schooling? It is fair to all little angels?
Parent 1 - 情况受到控制之下，我能接受只须要把感染者隔离在家，照常上课。没有所谓的公不公平，若家长不放心，大可不送孩子去学校上课。
Parent 2 - Definitely not agree to those kids who has attacked by HFM virus and still coming to class. We love our children, surely we don’t let them suffering from any illness, etc….
Parent 3 - If for others kid without HFM, I agreed. But if I'm the parent of the kid with HFM, I don't agreed cause children might left behind the classes.... I think it is fair enough to close down the school. But it might be problem for those parents who are working and send their kids for day care... cause don't know how to arrange thier kids....
Parent 4 - It will not be effective to prevent the disease from spreading as from the e-mail sent by teacher Peh, it is already proven that some of the kid will still return to school although they are sick. Special action shall be taken especially for this type of critical disease.
Parent 5 - Good. Closed is better & faster way to stop the disease

5) 哪一个措施您认为是最好的解决方案？ 关闭学校停止让手足口症状传播或照常上课，只是把感染者隔离在家？Which solutions are you feel better? Shut down schooling to avoid virus spreading or just quarantine infected children at home and school still run as normal.
Parent 1 - 如果没有把握受到控制，关闭也是逼不得已的方法。
Parent 2 - To those suspect or confirm being attacked by HFM virus , high fever, etc… Pls isolate them in the house until recover. It is a good
Solution to everybody for now and future.
Before back to school – need confirmation letter from Doctor indicated that he/her is suitable to go back to continue of study.
Parent 3 - All of the solution got pro and con. Depent on which party we are. Shut down the school for this time is the good solution. But as I said earlier, this will become a problem to those working parents, with such short notice....
Parent 4 - Declare school off for certain period so that the disease spreading cans completely cut-off.
Parent 5 - Due to increasing & transporting, should stop the class. About Fairness cannot consider already because this disease consider danger for kids and with order by "Kementerian" to close the school to stop the problem. And further by cleaning are required. Should stop the class.

6) 因为本园为了预防手足口症传染而停课，您可以接受吗？Do you agree school shut down stop to spreading HFM virus?
Parent 1 - 可以。
Parent 2 - For my case, I will take this a serious matter. Shut down is one of the proper choice ( but no other choice right). I do agree of school shut down for one of the prevention step to avoid virus spreading among the study even to their family members. Lastly, I sincerely hope that may my opinion is in Win-Win situation between Parents and QQ kindergarten.
Parent 3 - As a half day-parents of QQ kids, I can accept school close 1 week in advance and open 1 week earlier. Continue the school will cause more risks for the kids in the school. It is because no one knows who will be infected next. If only quarantine the infected kids, as mention ealier, the kids might hard to catch-up....
Parent 4 - Yes.
Parent 5 - Yes.
Parent 6 - Personally I agreed with the decision to shut down due to HFM disease is still spreading actively at school. In order not to worsen the condition and totally free from it, a thorough sterilization & cleaning is needed. Although it created a short-term inconvenience to the parents, but for the benefit of our children; we have to.

Magnet Functional - N2 syllabus

These is our another Practical sciences programme which suitable for 4 years old children, in order to let them to understand on magnet functions, and very hard to let 4 years old children to understand on the theory of attractive magnet. The best way to explain to them is let them to do by themselves. These also is one of our slogans, learning through fun, children they thinks they are playing toys, actually from these activities they will learn how the magnet stick to the metal materials. You can see how they enjoyed participating on these activities.

Action taken for HFM diseases

May 2009, Tough month for ours school, ours school storm due to Hand Foot Mouth Diseases, ours school has been decided to shut down for early one week to all of the little angels here. This decision make to avoid the HFM virus keep on spreading to whole school. Although school is shut down, our teachers need to wash, sterilize all the toys, even small toys. We are spending one day for outside furniture, spent another 2 days for indoor furniture and all teaching aids included class room wall. Thank you all my loved teachers are hold hand together to overcome these suffering period. And also felt sorry to all the parents due to trouble your daily routine.

Ways to develop children self-esteem

Children Learn What They Live by Denis Waitley

An ancient Chinese proverb tells us, "A child's life is like a piece of paper on which every passerby leaves a mark." We cannot teach our children self-esteem. We can only help them discover it within themselves by adding positive marks and strokes on their slates. All positive motivation is rooted in self-esteem – the development of which, just as with other skills takes practice. Think of self-esteem as a four-legged chair.

A Sense of Belonging: The first leg of self-esteem is a sense of belonging. We all have a deep-seated need to feel we're part of something larger than ourselves. This need, which psychologists call an affiliation drive, encompasses people, places and possessions. Our instinct for belonging – for being wanted, accepted, enjoyed, and loved by close ones – is extremely powerful. It explains the bond of an extended family, friends, and teammates. It also explains why some adolescents join gangs. They want to belong, even if it's wrong.
Make your children proud of their family heritage and make your home a place where they feel safe, loved and welcome. Also, make your home a place where your children want to bring their friends, rather than a place they want to leave as soon as possible.

A Sense of Individual Identity: The second leg, which complements the sense of belonging, is a sense of individual identity. No human being is exactly like another, not even an identical twin. We are all unique combinations of talents and traits that never existed before and will never exist again in quite the same package. (This explains why most parents believe their children came from different planets!)
Observe your children as they grow and play. Watch their learning styles. Notice what they love to do in their free time. Help them discover their unique positive talents and help nurture them into skills. Report cards don't necessarily measure talents. They often are a measure only of discipline, memory and attention span.

A Sense of Worthiness: The third leg of self-esteem is a sense of worthiness, the feeling that I'm glad I'm me, with my genes and background, my body, my unique thoughts. Without our own approval, we have little to offer. If we don't feel worth loving, it's hard to believe that others love us; instead, we tend to see others as appraisers or judges of our value.
Show your children unconditional love. Carefully separate the doer from the deed, and the performer from the performance. The message: "I love you no matter what happens, and I'm always there for you" is one of most important concepts in building a feeling of worthiness or intrinsic value in children. After every reprimand, let them know you love them. Before they go to sleep at night, give them the reassurance that, regardless of what happened that day, you love them unconditionally.

A healthy sense of belonging, identity, and worthiness can only be rooted in intrinsic core values as opposed to outer, often material, motivation. Without them, we depend on others constantly to fill our leaking reserves of self-esteem – but also tend to suspect others of ulterior motives. Unable to accept or reject others' opinions for what they're worth, we are defensive about criticism and paranoid about praise – and no amount of praise can replace the missing qualities.
A healthy sense of belonging, identity, and worthiness is also essential to belief in your dreams. It is most essential during difficult times, when you have only a dream to hang on to.
A Sense of Control and Competence: Early in my career in motivational psychology, I thought the chair of self-esteem balanced firmly on those three legs, especially since they involved intrinsic core values. It took much time and research to realize that a fourth leg – one of the most important – was missing.

There are many reasons why few Americans currently in high school and college believe they were born to win. The supportive extended family – in many cases, even the nuclear family – is disappearing. Role models are increasingly unhealthy. The commercial media bombards young senses ever more insistently with crime, violence, hedonism, and other unhealthy forms of escape. But whatever the explanation, constructive citizens and leaders in society cannot emerge and develop without the creative imagination that serves them like fuel – which is why the apprehension, frustration, and hesitation I see and hear in the younger generation is cause for concern. At the moment, the future they imagine will help drive neither happiness nor success.

The chair's fourth leg is self-efficacy, a functional belief in your ability to control what happens to you in a changing, uncertain world. A sense of worthiness may give you the emotional means to venture, but you need self-efficacy, the sense of competence and control, to believe you can succeed. That's why it is so important to assign responsibility for small tasks to your children as early as possible so they can learn that their choices and efforts result in consequences and successes. The more success they experience, the stronger their confidence grows – and the more responsibility they want to assume.
Give them specific household chores and duties they can accomplish and be proud of. Teach them that their problems and setbacks are just temporary inconveniences and learning experiences. Emphasize it constantly: Setbacks are not failures.

Armed with a view of failure as a learning experience, children can develop an early eagerness for new challenges and will be less afraid to try new skills. Although they appreciate compliments, they benefit most from their own belief that they are making a valuable contribution to life, according to their own internal standards.

In an increasingly competitive global marketplace, each new, young member of the workforce simply must believe that he or she is a team leader, a self-empowered, quality individual who expresses that quality in excellent production and service. With increasing pressures on profit and the need to do more with fewer workers because of e-commerce and changing technology, it is essential that parents and business leaders help raise the value of their childrens' and employees' stock in themselves.

Our Kids are Not Our Clones
One of the most valuable lessons I have learned in being an effective family leader and in raising six children is to: "Treat our children with the same respect, we expect from them." Our children are not clones or copies of us. Although they mimic us and other adults as role models, they cannot be expected to feel or act the way we do. Kahlil Gibran is my favorite on the subject:

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself….
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit,
Not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them be like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday

-- Denis Waitley